Love Songs 101: Music and Affection in Early Childhood

Somehow the round green wreaths on the front doors of houses in my community have morphed into red or pink heart shapes.  Even when they are covered with snow, the colors and shapes of these decorations send the message that love is in the air.

I’ve been so lucky as a daughter and a wife and a mother to love and to be loved.  I’ve been fortunate also in my work with young children to feel a different kind of love for the little ones and for their families. As a music therapist and an educator I have examined the idea of love and affection and bonding from all different kinds of perspectives – developmental, biological, neurological, behavioral, social and emotional.  What this research and clinical experience has shown me is that one of the most important things that can happen for a parent and child making music together is to experience a feeling of love.  [Read more…]

Moments of Wonder and Awe in Music

It’s a wonderful lifeIt’s the most wonderful time of the year. Star of wonder.  Winter wonderland.

So many songs of the holiday season remind us that the world promises moments of awe and amazement and wonder. As you read this, you might be picturing or feeling or reliving one of those moments.  One slice of time sticks out for me from this past year. The lights were glowing soft and the room was cozy. My family was bundled together doing what we always do – sing.  There is a moment in singing one of our favorite scores when the close, warm harmonies take a sudden enharmonic turn.  Each time I sing these same few measures I get a tightness in my chest and a catch in my throat. The beauty of the sound is indescribable and seems to take me to a whole different world.  The feeling is one of wonder and one of awe.  [Read more…]

When Words Fail: Small Children and Tragedy

Dear Raising Harmony Members,

For the second time since starting this blog a few short months ago, difficult, and now tragic, events have torn open the vulnerable world of small children.  There are no words that can meet the depth of sorrow for those who lost children in this latest school shooting.  Many will write for those families and that community and offer them what they can in their grief.  But today I feel compelled to share some of my thoughts with you, our early childhood community, on some immediate and critical ways to meet the needs of our own young children in times of tragedy.  [Read more…]

Two Sides of the Street

Reaching Out a Hand to the Music Teacher

I just returned from another long week of travel up to the annual conference of our state music educators association. For the last few years I have been the music therapy liaison to this music teacher’s group and attending the conference is one of my duties.  Each year seems to bring greater acceptance and understanding on both sides of the music street for the things we have in common and the ways we are unique.  This year my music therapy colleagues, Evelyn Selesky and Tracy Wanamaker, and I presented three sessions- on Autism, behavior management in the music education classroom and music therapy as a career.

 

As I walk around this packed and very hectic conference, I have had to perfect my ‘music therapy elevator pitch’.  And it has to be tailored to the audience- our fellow music educators.  The first thing that generally comes up is the pressure these teachers feel to be successful in reaching every student since ‘all kids like music’.  Many are given minimal support and scarce information.  This is the perfect time to ‘walk across the street’ and reach out a hand to the music educator to share our knowledge as music therapists about children, development and music responses.  I find that spreading our resources is more effective in the long run than protecting them.  But I make it clear that the strategies that I give them are designed to help them be a better music teacher and to help assure that all children have access to a quality music education.

 

The road gets a little muddy, though, when I meet with the early childhood music educators.  Good quality early childhood music education often promotes development.  The teachers see this and assume that the two sides – music skill development and overall development in music- are one and the same thing.  This is true as long as the child responds to the curriculum in the way that the curriculum intended. The problem arises when the child does not respond according to plan.  This is another place for the music therapist to step in.  Rather than meeting in the middle of the road though, I encourage the early childhood music educator to find their way back to their side of the street and continue to do their job of helping children gain early music skills.  As music therapists, we can then provide an alternate way to help young children develop through music.

Here is one way I explain it using some visual imagination. Music can be like a beautifully wrapped present. The music educator’s job is to show children how to carefully wrap the package – paper, tape, string, bow – putting together the pitch, rhythm, form and melody.  When it is finished, the package of music is ready to display and everybody recognizes it as a present.

The music therapist takes the same elements of the package and takes them apart. Maybe the rhythm will be tucked in the child’s shoes.  The form can be a crown or a helmet.  The melody is stuffed in pockets and taken out as needed.  And the pitch is worn like fingers on a glove.  At the end there is no pretty present to show.  The elements are just absorbed into the child’s whole being.

 

Enjoy this visual image as you make your way toward the holiday season.  And maybe think of giving a gift to a music educator by inviting them to dance with you in the middle of the street.

 

Beth

 

 

 

Peeling the Onion: Thanksgiving

For the first time in as long as I can remember, Thanksgiving will not be at my house.  The decision for the change was not deliberate; it was just something that happened.  Since I am not madly shopping and cooking, there is time to think about change and think about the focus on tradition that most families feel at Thanksgiving.  How do we create traditions for our children? What happens when creating tradition means lots of changes from everyday routine? Is there more to tradition at Thanksgiving than a turkey or a pilgrim hat?  [Read more…]

Go Away, Hurricane Sandy!

Routine, Reassurance, Recognition and Resilience

Dark. Noisy. Confusing. Mom and Dad upset. No TV.  Cold. The hurricane that roared through our area was really scary for so many little children.  And scary for grownups, many of whom felt powerless both literally and figuratively.  My friend Christine, shared these thoughts in an e-mail after returning to work at her pre-school – “So many staff members and family have lost everything at my site! People were crying in the halls in each other’s arms. A 4 year old girl told me there were fish and crabs swimming though her house.”  [Read more…]

Peeling the Onion – An Occasional Series

Peeling the Onion

One thing that I find most satisfying about music is how it connects the head and the heart – cognition and emotion – without requiring the landing spot of language.  That’s one reason why music is so perfect for young children who are just developing speech.  Music creates a feeling and thinking space where children can experience deeper and more abstract parts of being human that they might not yet be able to put into words.  As music therapists, we know how to create that special space through musical elements such as melody, harmony, rhythm and timbre.  As I compose or adapt music for my young ones and their families, I question myself about the meaning of the musical material or lyrics that I choose.  How can the experience of being in the music give children a chance to not only make music, but feel and think and question and test and problem solve? What is the deeper meaning in the songs we choose for our children? Why are certain songs so popular? I call this type of examination ‘Peeling the Onion’.   In this occasional series, I want to share with you some of the ideas I have about holiday songs and how I try and ‘peel the onion’ of meaning behind our cultural traditions and the music that we choose.  There is the outer layer of specific words and concrete objects such as learning the color orange in a pumpkin song. Peel to the next layer and you might find that the song about the winter holidays use words about family or presents.  Peel another layer and there might be a deeper shared meaning of love or belonging.  I think knowing how to peel the onion when creating music experiences for young children is one way that music therapists are unique in the world of early childhood music.  I hope you will share with our Raising Harmony community your thoughts about ‘Peeling the Onion’.  [Read more…]

Early Childhood Sessions at AMTA 2012

CHANGING WINDS: INNOVATION IN MUSIC THERAPY

The AMTA National Conference is a great place to learn and share. We have put together a list of Continuing Education Courses and Concurrent Sessions on early childhood topics that might be of interest to you. There are so many amazing presenters and such a variety of topics, that we thought this list might help you negotiate the program. I would be happy to share my picks with you….but certainly Marcia Humpal, Petra Kern and Helen Shoemark would be on the very top of my list of ‘not to miss presenters’. (Of course, I would love it if you would join me on Thursday morning for Tones, Tunes, and Timbres.)
For those of you who can’t make it to the conference this time around, please let us know which courses you would like to see sponsored on-line through Raising Harmony!
Beth  [Read more…]

Halfway Around the World

Association for Music Therapy Singapore

2nd Symposium 2012: Music Therapy and the Special Child

I was sitting at my work desk writing up some session notes when an e-mail popped up that I just had to stop and read – ‘Will you travel halfway around the world to present on music therapy and special education?’ The passion and professionalism of the members of the Association for Music Therapy Singapore almost reached out through the computer screen with steadfast persuasion. I blinked my eyes,  read it again, and without stopping to get the details, decided to say ‘yes’.   What a great experience!  [Read more…]

Hand-Me-Down: Music from Generation to Generation

I am so glad to have you join me on this first Raising Harmony blog. Let’s share our stories and songs and hopes and challenges and most of all support each other in transforming the lives of children and families through music.

I sometimes stop and think about how my life ended up this way. Most days of the week you can find me in the music room of Alternatives for Children on Long Island, New York being a music therapist just like I have been for the past 24 years. It is a wonderful space, with lots of warmth and all kinds of instruments. But the room really comes alive when moms and dads come in with their little guys. At the moment they enter, all the days and years before seem to melt away and suddenly it is just us and the music. So how come after so many years, this routine and repetition doesn’t bore me?  [Read more…]

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